JWU Providence student Samantha Riley juggles a schedule that rivals a presidential candidate, but she's learning an incredibly powerful word: "no." Take some guidance on how to utter those two small letters.
Words have infinite power. Words have the ability to initiate change. Words have the magnitude to induce a formidable ripple effect, more influential than ever imaginable.
A specific word in general stands out the most and it is, "no."
What's an overachiever to do?
Now to some people, no is something that is said too much and instead yes becomes the priority. Personally, as an overachiever and for all the other ones out there in the world, that does not reign true. As the years have passed, uttering the word no has become less difficult. That social gala, networking event and charity fundraiser all scheduled during the week sound like perfect opportunities to attend in that perfect world that solely exists inside my head. Yet as an individual who is human and limited by only being able to be in one place at a time, it is not possible.
Therefore, the brave face mask is retrieved from the depths of my closet and has to be positioned on. That is, of course, before the dreaded two-letter word has to manage to force itself out of my mouth, leaving a trail of bitterness along the way. It's always simpler, as simple as it can be, when you have a previous commitment scheduled just then, but what if you actually do not? It could be that you would rather be doing something else or truly do not want to attend. Remember that it is not necessary to provide a reason for the denial. Articulate your response with confidence, consider practicing on your friends or family and everything will be grand.
Though this brings us to the ultimate question of why more people do not follow this logic. There are a number of reasons, but the most common is that people have an immeasurable amount of fear of missing out. Between the pictures void of your presence, shared afterward from the event to the inside jokes you do not understand, it is understandable why you would decide to go. As well, speaking from personal experience, you really do find that whatever you were invited to has sufficient value and deserves presence. Then, it is honestly time to reevaluate what is the most important. There is no avoiding it, it must be done sooner or later. In addition, many people do not know how to physically say no because of their passive nature and end up suffering in the end.
This leads to the reasons behind why people need to learn to say no.
- Creates an over complicated and hectic schedule.
- Steers you away from reaching your essential goals, unless both are directly correlated.
- Leaves little time for self-care like at least seven hours of sleep at night and healthy eating.
- Causes a lack of balance between relaxation, work, and a healthy lifestyle.
- When spread too thin, it does not allow for the time and best state of mind to produce high quality work.
Know that making yourself the number one priority may be no cake walk but is essential. In order to be the most successful say no to something. Start small and become more able from there, changes do not happen overnight. Enjoy that night in watching a movie, reading a book or let’s be real, sleeping, more than once in a blue moon because you deserve it.
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